What I’ve started, I must finish. I’ve gone to far to turn back.
Regardless of what may happen I have to go forward.
- Bastion, The Never Ending Story
A hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.
- Christopher Reeves
Live your life from your heart. Share from your heart.
Your story will touch and heal people’s hearts and souls.
- Karen Ciandella, No One Will Know
Reunion Coaching
Are you about to undertake a Life Transforming Change?
If you are a birth parent, adoptee, or adoptive parent considering or involved in searching or reunion you are more than likely experiencing a flood of emotions. You may feel conflicted, hopeful, fearful, or apprehensive – basically overwhelmed.
As your Reunion coach, I will provide you with the support, tools, compassion and encouragement to access your own inner wisdom through all the phases of your reunion process.
Reunion coaching is about YOU.
Think of reunion as key to your personal recovery. Reunion can be a time of deep personal and spiritual growth. Just as every experience of adoption is unique, Reunion (no matter what stage) will not be the same for you as it is for someone else. Reunion is an intense, spiritual journey of wholeness and healing. You will be facing a lot of unknowns here. The more conscious you are of your thoughts and feelings, the more you participate in your own inner work and healing, and the more aware you are of your own needs and desire, the better prepared you will be navigating the unknown.
Be clear. Why search? Why now?
Those may seem like obvious question but sometimes the obvious question doesn’t address the underlying feelings or thoughts. Reunion is part of your healing process. I emphatically believe you must do your own work first. What have you done for your own healing? How have you (or have you) resolved some of your personal struggles or issues?
The amount of inner work you do will directly affect your reunion. Are you looking outside of yourself - to someone else - to resolve your own unmet needs? It’s important to go within, to look at and understand yourself and your own unresolved emotions first.
We all have “stuff” to look at and clean up. Let’s not bring our stuff into a possible new relationship and lay that responsibility or burden on another. No one else can “fix” us, make us whole or complete us – they cannot do our work for us. They can, however, enhance us, open our hearts and be part of our healing. There is more possibility for connection, love, grace and understanding in reunion when you are actively involved in and working on your own recovery and healing. Here’s some of what we’ll work on…
· Acceptance. What happened – happened. There is no changing the past. Reunions can help explain, clarify, rectify and connect people together but they cannot change history. Of course, there is regret but it’s useless to hang on to. It’s time to move forward from here – to a new future, a new possibility surrounded with awareness, compassion and forgiveness.
· Have a clear understanding of your hopes, intention and expectations
· Address the grief that is still unprocessed
· Personal understanding of who you are, what you bring to a reunion
· Understand the importance of establishing boundaries
· Education and support for reunion
· Being responsible for your own well-being - balancing your life in the present as you open up to the past.
· Acknowledging and releasing the fears and doubts you have. How vulnerable will you need to be?
· After reunion, now what? Are you prepared to “go the distance”. Reunion requires trust, patience, a strong sense of self worth, and commitment – What does the future look like?
· What are you committed to and what old habits, beliefs or behavior may get in the way or prevent you from living into that commitment?
Reunion is a life changing event and the most significant meeting you will ever have. Who are you going to BE?
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