For Adoptive Parents

I know it sometimes bothers you that I tell you you’ve been a gift to me.

Is is okay if I tell you what a blessing you have been?

An Adoptive Mother

Adoptive Parents

Adoptive Parents have their own unique set of struggles and issues. Adopting a child can be joyous and exciting – it can also be uncertain and confusing.

Of course there is the joy of receiving a child but there are times when unresolved grief and loss from infertility, the inability to carry a child to term or the death of a biological child can show up and cloud thoughts and behaviors. Sometimes we create an idea that we must be “the perfect parent” and cannot live up to the unrealistic expectations we set up for ourselves. The pain and sadness we experience when we see our child suffering from his own separation and loss issues may leave us feeling inadequate, helpless and unworthy.

· Do you still struggle with unresolved issues about your infertility, loss of a biological child or inability to carry a child to term? Are you trying to cope with your own loss while parenting your child?

· Do you still have a sense of loss or grief even though you feel joy and blessed with your adopted child?

· Do you have an idea of “chosen” parent, needing to be perfect and living up to some undefined expectation?

· Do you fear you may treat your adoptive child differently from your biological child?

· If your adopted child is struggling with his/her own separation issues do you feel helpless or abandoned by him/her? Do you feel inadequately prepared to support him/her?

· Do you feel rejected by your adult child and subsequently unworthy of being a parent?

· Does your child want to search for his biological mother and you are fearful of losing him/her

· Do you feel you have to compete with a fantasy mother?

· Do you fear you aren’t equipped to handle your child’s desire to have a relationship with his birth family?

· Are you struggling with an open adoption and a relationship with your child’s birth mother?

· Are you ready to heal your own heart, your inner child and your grief and loss?

Together we will walk the path that allows you to fully embrace the beautiful child you have and face the challenges that you and your child will face together.

What we’ll look at:

· The story of our adoption/the adoption trauma

· How the meanings we assign to events control our beliefs

· How to uncover who we truly are (our authentic self)

· How to become powerful by being accountable

· How to improve our relationships

· How to live with, take care of yourself and support your child in Search or Reunion

· How to be happy, loving, accepting and embracing all the gifts of adoption

Contact me and we’ll walk together in your journey to love, acceptance, understanding and wisdom.